Sometimes we say too much. We do not want to let someone down when they ask us to do something, so we go ahead and commit when we are not sure if we will be able to do so. Then, we let them down because we have taken on too much. I don’t know about you, but this is what happens to me time and time again. However, James 5:12 tells us, “But most of all, my brothers and sisters, never take an oath, by heaven or earth or anything else. Just say a simple yes or no, so that you will not sin and be condemned.”
So how can we honor commitments, but at the same time not take on too much? First, we must decide the things in life that are a priority and important to us. If family is important to you, then make a commitment that you will consult your family before deciding anything. Commit to spend time with them and make them feel like they are your priority. If church is your priority, then commit to getting involved and making it important. If your children are your priority, then make sure they know. Commit to getting involved in what they are involved in. Above all, if you make God your number one priority above all else, then everything else will fall in line. You will not feel split if He is your priority.
It is okay to say no to things that are not your priority. Always take everything into consideration before giving an answer, but once you have given an answer, let you yes be yes and your no be no.