Dictionary.com defines the word proud as “having, proceeding from, or showing a high opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, or superiority.” This definition of pride is opposite of what the Bible says about being proud. Proverbs 16:18 says that, “pride goes before destruction, and haughtiness before a fall.” In other words, pride leads to the destruction of oneself, families, friendships, and other relationships. Pride only looks out for one’s own interest and not the interests of others.
Love is the opposite of pride. It looks to the interests of others and puts them first. It is humility in action. Love says, “I will deny myself and my interests and put you first.” This is exactly what Jesus did when He went to the cross. He denied Himself and put humanity first. He looked out for our interests instead of His own. He looked to build us up instead of tearing us down. Christ was the very picture of love and humility. However, our enemy, the devil, seeks to kill, steal, and destroy. He delights in nothing more than our destruction, and he uses pride to do it. So when we put others first, we are accomplishing the work that Jesus set out to do.
Pride tears apart everything we build as Christians. No matter how invested we are in a relationship, pride can tear it apart. However, love is the opposite of pride. It builds up and encourages. It puts others first and seeks the good of others. Pray and ask God to keep you grounded so you can build up your relationships.